Nothing is more awesome than the birth of your first child. You get to experience so many things for the first time. And while parenting is difficult and sleep is hard to come by, you persevere and you become the best possible parent you can. You have read the books, you have gotten advice from all of your friends on social media and you have been to a parenting class or two. You have no other child to steal your attention away from this joyous little bundle and you become the perfect parent.
You really are a perfect parent; all the meals are organic, all the outfits are brand new name brand, and your child is crawling sooner than any other child in his infant yoga class. Life really is grand and you are devoting all of your time into raising the next President of the United States or possibly the next great athlete. Then you get the news, you’re going to have another baby. How will you manage your time between the two kids? And most importantly, how are you going to find any more room in your heart to love another child as much as you do your first born?
Your second baby finally arrives and it turns out, despite the math not adding up, you do have the capacity to love two children with all of your heart. You also realize you have become a better parent. How are you a better parent you ask? Let’s examine some of the ways.
First of all your second child is going to be crazy. It’s well documented and you can read all about it by clicking the link. Why does a crazy child make you a better parent? Because now you have to work harder and we all know you grow through adversity. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Please know your second child might actually be the death of you.
Secondly you now have a proper barometer by which to judge your first kid. You think you’re objective with your first child, but you aren’t. You think everything your first born does is perfect, sweet and adorable. It’s not until #2 enters the picture that you are able to say “Hey wait a min, my first born is actually kind of obnoxious in this particular area, number 2 is much sweeter.”
Thirdly, you’ve already done this once. We all know practice makes perfect and having a second child gives you an opportunity to practice (and change up if need be) your parenting skills. You’ve established routines and you know what to expect. You’ve already been through all the trials and errors and you are battle tested.
If you’re a parent of an only child and you are thinking you are a perfect and wonderful parent…you are! But if you want to be even better than that you should go get right on that crazy second child! You’ll thank me in 9 months, I can wait…