I consider myself to be a typical dude. I love football, I hunt, I fish, I do my own car repairs, if I need a handyman I go into the garage and get my tools, I do my own yard work, I carry a pocket knife, I love all things electronic, I shave a couple times a month, I cried during The Notebook, I build furniture out of old pallets…you know, all the typical guy stuff.
I also just so happen to be a stay at home dad of 4.
This was a role that came about out of financial necessity. Currently my kids are 5, 3, 2, and 8 months. My oldest just started kindergarten this year. My kids are simultaneously one of my biggest sources of joy and my biggest causes of frustration. I am a man functioning in a role that has been dominated by women.
This is a double sided coin; there are little to no resources available specifically for stay at home dads and I have virtually no peers with which to associate. On the other hand I am able to avoid the current “mommy wars” going on everyday on social media and the playground. I can’t tell you how many articles I have read from moms saying how other moms make them feel bad for this or that and how ladies they don’t know will come up and give them advice in a critical way. Ain’t no ladies coming up to me on the playground or grocery store and telling me anything. Maybe I can get into why I think that might be at a later date, but I won’t get into it now.
Nearly everyday of my life holds a new adventure, whether I’m ready for it or not.