With the Super Bowl just around the corner I decided to think back about all those lessons I learned playing football as a kid and see how they apply to fatherhood.
Sometimes what you originally had planned just isn’t going to work out. Thought you were going to take your kids to the zoo this morning? What’s that? One of the kids has a fever of 103 and is projectile vomiting? Time for plan B. Kids are unpredictable little creatures and I’ve learned I need to adapt and be willing to roll with a new idea at a moment’s notice.
Football isn’t a one person activity and neither is parenting. Yes, you may be the one running with the ball most of the time but you need your support group of blockers to help you out. Darrelle Revis may be an island but as a parent you shouldn’t be. Surround yourself with people you trust and care about. Help them out and let them help you.
Half time is a chance to re-group, take a break, re-evaluate how your current game plan is going and get ready to end the game strong. In the parenting world half-time is called nap-time. That time in the middle of the day where you can hear yourself think. Where you can let your guard down for a few minutes without fear of the house burning down. Where you can regroup and get ready to finish the day strong.
It’s important to drink a lot, that’s why I always carry a flask. Ok just kidding. I threw that in for fun to see if you were paying attention. Every good team needs someone to lighten the mood, that’s where dad comes in with his corny dad jokes!
Are you going to punt the ball away and play defense or are you going to throw caution to the wind and go for it? Picking your battles is important. My-way-or-the-highway isn’t the best approach for every single issue. I’ve got to be willing to reassess every once in a while.
Sometimes you have to take every man you’ve got and run head-on at an issue. Get the whole family involved to more effectively accomplish some goal or task. Does your living room look like a tornado just touched down? Get everyone involved to help clean up!
Celebrate the minor accomplishments, victories and milestones. You don’t have to wait for a touchdown to tell your kids “good job.” Learn to appreciate the little things.
The dad is kind of like the quarterback of the family. Not only does he look super cool in his headband and sun glasses but everyone looks to him for guidance and leadership. The dad needs to huddle up the family, call a play, then make sure it’s executed properly. Great teams have great quarterbacks and great families have great dads.
Enjoy the game this weekend, and promise me you won’t “just watch for the commercials.”