Mr 200. The Blogger Who Sold Out.

So this is my 200th post. That’s a lot of rambling on. Some posts have been funny, some touching, some terrible and a lot recently have been commercialized. ย The sponsored posts and reviews have turned into a monster I didn’t foresee. Sure, getting free stuff and making money to do something I was already doing for fun anyway is nice. But at some point it’s started to go contrary to why I started my blog to begin with, and why people were somewhat drawn to it.

I don’t really know why I started a blog to be honest. A little bored? The faint hope of internet fame? The desire to tell funny stories? The desire to chronicle the time spent at home with my kids? The allure of possibly getting free stuff? Truthfully, all of those reasons factored in a little bit. It just seemed like something to do that I could do in my spare time in the evenings after the kids went to bed instead of watching TV.

The blog used to be something I did for fun. Something I looked forward to doing. Now it’s turning into more of a responsibility. Something I have to do because of deadlines that companies who sent me free stuff or have paid me to write posts have placed on me. It feels less like fun and more like a school assignment. How did I get here? How do I get out?

How can I get back to the funny posts about my kids only going potty in the toilet if they get chapstickย or singing slightly mispronounced and completely inappropriate lyrics to Uptown Funk in Walmart? That’s what I enjoyed, that’s what other people who supported me seemed to relate to and enjoy reading the most. BUT….at the same time, Schwinn just sent my boys a free bike and paid me money to write a post about it. I like that too! How do I find the right balance?

What is the right balance? Does the right balance exist? Some people blog full time and make enough to support their family. I don’t have the time, ability or desire to do that. Some people just blog a couple times a month whenever they get around to it. I want to be a little more involved than that. ย I also don’t want the time I spend on the blog talking about my kids to actually take away time that I get to spend with my kids. That seems counter-intuitive.

Also, I don’t like housework, I really don’t like it. Just thought I’d throw that in there.

Hopefully I can find that right balance somewhere in the next 200 posts. Sooner than later preferably.ย I think I’m going to have to learn how to say no to a lot of companies that I would normally say yes to. I need to get back to doing the things I was doing when it was fun.

Also, I’m performing a 1-man improv comedy show this Friday, I’m really looking forward to that.

Now I’m just rambling so I’ll leave you with this exchange I had with my daughter the other day in the car as I was singing along to the radio:

Ela: Stop singing, this isn’t your best song.

Me: What? What’s my best song?

Ela: All the other ones. When this girl stops singing then you can sing again.

Sheesh, everyone’s a critic these days!

Thanks for all your support over these last 200 posts. Have a great rest of your week.

 

18 thoughts on “Mr 200. The Blogger Who Sold Out.”

    1. It does seem like a lifetime ago. There is definite value in just being able to get some stuff off your chest. Kinda like this post, ha. I needed to get that out there.

  1. Congrats on 200 posts, and good luck with your show. Sponsored posts are like most things in life, sometimes it takes a while to find the balance that you are comfortable with. Feel free to send some brands my way if you overwhelmed. In all seriousness, I think more than the money and the free stuff, there is a sense of validation that comes with companies wanting to work with you. A feeling that you are successful at something that you work hard at. Perfectly understandable

    1. Definitely agree with that sense of validation. Well said. Even though we’re doing such an important, validating thing by raising our kids, I think we still seek some other form of “work” to feel accomplished.

    2. Thanks, you are exactly right about the validation part too. It makes you feel like your blog is legit and being taken seriously when brands want to advertise with you. It’s easy to get caught up in that a little bit. I’ll figure out the right balance eventually (I hope).

  2. Firstly, well done on 200! Great stuff!
    Secondly, I totally hear you here! About a year ago I had been publicly blogging for 9 months and it seemed like any 9 month period I have birth to a blogging monster. It was horrid. I felt the pressure of deadlines, reviews and even to write “for fun” engaging posts because I was on a stats high! There was almost a moment where it came hurtling down around me but had some foresight to stop, gather and plod on. My biggest turning point was realising I’m a home ed blogger primarily. I was doing loads on parenting but started getting comments on how people wanted more parent stuff and home ed! Weird. I get that it’s not everyone’s thing but still annoyed me. On research I found that I’m the only blogging home ed dad here in the UK. That made me prouder than any stat number, paid post or review. I found who I was again and why I started. Anyway, I’m rambling on….The point is stop doing the pressured stuff, go back to the start and fall in love all over again but keep the stress in eyesight. ๐Ÿ™‚

    You were one of my first dad bloggers to read and that means a lot! You kept me going and is pure me in other areas and that in itself is more successful than any other aspect ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Thanks Martyn, it’s good to read your words of encouragement and advice. When I started my blog you were one of the guys who had started before me that I looked up to and who’s input I’ve always valued. You’re right about the pressure of the stats high! That can be just as bad. I think I’ll take your advice, go back to the start, reread some of my early posts and remember why I enjoyed this to begin with. Thank buddy, I hope you have a great day.

  3. Oh man, you pretty much took the words right out of my mouth on this one. I totally feel you on this and don’t know how/when it happened. Free stuff for our kids and ourselves is awesome, but just like you said, it’s taking away from the time we could spend just playing with our kids instead of blogging about it and sharing on social media. It’s good to see others like you feel the same way as sometimes it seems like I’m the only one.

    Best of luck in getting there sooner rather than later, hopefully I’ll be doing the same!

    1. If you figure out any secret formula for the balancing act please let me know! ๐Ÿ™‚ Like so many other things, I imagine it’ll take a bit of trial and error. Good to hear from you RC, I hope you and the Miss are doing well. (and the Mrs too)

  4. Finding a balance can definitely be tough, and this was just the post I really needed to read.
    I just hit my 100th post, and I am beginning to enter the commercialized world. Though I have written a few reviews, a majority of my blogging has been done for fun. Now, like you, I’m started to get handed deadlines, and this post made me take a step back.
    Selling out is definitely something I don’t want to do, but it would be nice to make a little money as well. Like you said, it’s all about balance. How you do that, I’m not quite sure yet ha
    Thanks for sharing!

    1. Thanks for stopping by and congrats on your 100 posts, that’s a fantastic milestone. I think taking that step back to re-evaluate is probably the best move. Then take a step back and re-evaluate again in 3 months to see how it’s all working. There doesn’t seem to be a one-size-fits-all answer to finding the proper balance.

  5. Congrats on your 200th post and on your show. I totally relate to your post. Once I felt the pressure to write with deadlines, I knew that wasn’t the path for me. Currently I blog for fun, although I’m open to working with companies whose products I love. Lately I’ve been busy on other projects so I tend to not respond to other companies or kindly decline.

    You’ll find the balance soon and know when to say no. I value my family time and If blogging takes away time from my priorities or I’m not excited about a product that I need to write about, then I don’t do it. You’ll know the right sponsors to work with. Good luck!

    –Jen

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