As a stay at home dad, I don’t get all caught up in trying to portray some manly macho image to my kids or to the world to counter act the fact that I stay home and do a traditionally female role. It honestly doesn’t cross my mind 99% of the time. We have 3 boys and 1 girl and I can’t say that I go around intentionally trying to steer their play time toward “gender appropriate” toys. If my daughter wants to play with monster trucks or footballs then I let her and if my boys want to play with princesses and baby dolls then I let them do that too.
I’m sure school will give them plenty of pressure to act gender appropriate later on, particularly my boys. They don’t need any extra pressure from me. For now I’ll just let them be kids. One of my sons took a trip with his grandfather to run some errands the other day. Along the way they stopped at a Dollar Tree and my son was allowed to pick out 2 toys. He picked a purple piggy bank and a tiara. He was so proud of those two things he was carrying them all around the house the next day. When it came time to go down to the bus stop to get our oldest from Kindergarten he ran to grab his tiara to take to the bus stop.
I’ll admit I had a moment where I wasn’t sure if I wanted him to walk with me in public wearing a tiara. But I quickly had a “who cares” conversation in my own mind and I let him wear it without any issue. While we were waiting for the bus I started to wonder why exactly he had picked a tiara out of all the other things in the whole store he could have chosen. So I asked him.
He looked at me with a puzzled face that seemed to imply he was surprised I didn’t know the answer to such an obvious question, and replied:
“Because it was very awesome and I wanted to wear it.”
I wonder if I could pull off the tiara look as good as he can?
So how about you, would you let your son wear a tiara?